Tuesday, July 17, 2012

I am being stalked!

I thought kicking my ex out of the house would solve things, but no. In fact, things have become worse. He has been stalking me, keeping up on my every move, spying through my balcony window and watching me at night. He has threatened to get a gun and just start shooting everyone in the building. We have had the police involved but for some reason they don't want to press charges, and I can't get a peace bond because the justice of the peace thinks he should be charged! In the meantime, I live in my apartment with sheets over the windows, hiding from him.

The good news is twofold. I am moving into a subsidized apartment in the middle of August, which will give me some financial security. Also the building is a secure building, with buzzers to get in and cameras in the hallways. I will breathe a huge sigh of relief once I have moved, because even if he tries something, he will be videotaped and I will have proof for the police. Here he can walk right up to my apartment door and no one in the building will call the police because the landlord has told everyone that having the police here is grounds for an eviction. I have since learned that this is illegal, but it still has everyone scared. I am counting down the days to the move. I still plan on moving to Belleville, but for now I will still be living in Napanee. It isn't the best solution, but I really need to be in subsidized housing as I can't afford market rents on my own.

I have managed to pack quite easily. I started early and have been working on it about 2 - 3 hours a night. My fibromyalgia and kicked up but it has been manageable and I haven't crashed, so that is good. I don't have that much left to pack, so I am doing well in that department. I will leave most of the stuff packed after the move and just wait for my transfer to Belleville. I will be so happy to live in a city where I don't have to constantly be looking around to see if the ex is following me!

Thursday, May 10, 2012

Never say "Forever"

I never thought I would say this, but a short 4 months into the marriage I have to say that it is over. I just sit here shaking my head, amazed at how one person can change with the utterance of a few words at a wedding ceremony. And change he did and not for the better either. Controlling, domineering and downright miserable. He betrayed my trust in him and he is out the door. After having lived through a 10 year abusive first marriage, I am definitely in no mind to go through an emotionally abusive second marriage. Life is far too short for that.

So I am on my own again and enjoying my freedom. I have been machine knitting with a vengeance, enjoying my newfound freedom from a repressed creativity. It is amazing how one person can be so oppressive of another. I feel like I have been let loose from prison, enjoying all aspects of life anew and it is wonderful.The only thing lacking right now is my piece of mind, because he has been coming by and harassing me. I do have papers filed for a move out of town and am hoping that that will come into being really soon. Then I will be able to rest easy and really start my life over again.

Here is a top I just finished on the knitting machine.

This sweater was made for a charity that I knit for - Mittens for Akkol.